I made a video some time again titled rewiring the anxious mind. and it is all about how we unintentionally prepare our mind to be extra anxious by avoidance and the way we are able to prepare our mind to be much less anxious by going through our fears. and I used the concern of canines for example in that video. and in response to that video I bought plenty of questions the most typical had been “What do I do if I do not know why I am anxious?”, quantity two is what if the canine bites you, and quantity three was I am not afraid of canines I am afraid of individuals. what do I do about that and in the subsequent couple of movies over the subsequent couple of weeks I am gonna reply all of these questions, however on this video we’re gonna speak about what do you do in the event you do not know why you are anxious. so let’s troubleshoot that collectively I do not know why you are anxious however I’ve bought some fairly good guesses there are some actually widespread explanation why you may be feeling anxiousness however you do not know why and if we are able to determine it out then you definately can work to alter your patterns round your anxiousness and your mind can retrain and rewire to be extra calm. On this video I will stroll you thru six explanation why you is perhaps anxious and you do not know why and I am going to present you some primary steps to take to begin therapeutic. Opposite to in style understanding disordered anxiousness shouldn’t be a everlasting genetic trait it is treatable and in my expertise most anxiousness can both be lowered or tailored to in a means that makes life a lot simpler once you be taught the fitting expertise you actually can really feel calmer and happier. if you wish to learn to get higher at feeling and how you can take care of intense feelings or enhance your normal psychological well being try my on-line programs in my course to alter your mind I educate the fundamentals of neuroplasticity which is how your mind is constructed to rewire itself on a regular basis. and you may additionally be taught 10 pure analysis reality remedies to enhance psychological well being. in my coping expertise and self-care course I educate you how you can soothe intense feelings and to create a sustainable self-care observe to deal with feelings in a wholesome means. so the hyperlinks are all within the description and if you employ the code nutshell you will get 25% off. okay so let’s leap into determining why you are anxious and what to do about it. so the primary purpose why you is perhaps feeling anxious however you do not know why is micro threats in our surroundings so bear in mind anxiousness is the struggle flight freeze response it is this physiological response and it pumps adrenaline into your physique to arrange you to struggle off a tiger or run away from an elephant or cover from a predator, however the struggle flight freeze response is not simply triggered by enormous predators it additionally will kick in in response to tiny little perceived threats and our trendy surroundings has plenty of these. so for instance site visitors driving is definitely considerably harmful and our mind responds to site visitors with an anxiousness response our mind additionally treats late as a survival menace noise can set off the struggle flight freeze response and so can college or work assignments our mind perceives our job as important for survival as a result of that is the place our meals and our shelter comes from and we all have this lovely good anciently developed mind and it triggers this bodily response in response to psychological challenges however our anciently developed mind is not as effectively tailored to trendy stressors as it’s to historical ones. So issues like multitasking and social interactions with a whole lot of strangers on a regular basis these are issues that activate that hazard response in our mind when unresolved all these little threats construct up over time and so they then we really feel anxious however we will not pinpoint it so this may go away you feeling a bit of bit stressed, jumpy, or irritable. it’d make you are feeling achy, or jittery, simply triggered, or overwhelmed, otherwise you might need bodily signs like complications, or stomachaches, or muscle stress. So to know how you can repair this we actually want to return to the anxiousness cycle for a minute so when our mind perceives one thing as harmful it perceives a menace it will activate the struggle flight freeze response. and that is what anxiousness feels prefer it’s that sweating palms, it is the quick coronary heart price, it is that adrenaline, and this response occurs sooner than we are able to assume that is one thing that occurs deep in our brains and it is not one thing that we are able to consciously management. we will not simply make this go away by attempting to not have it so that is the anxiousness response and the struggle flight freeze response is supposed to guard us from hazard. but when we wish to overcome disordered anxiousness we actually must find out how this works. so we begin by asking ourselves the query is that this truly harmful? there’s plenty of issues that activate this struggle flight freeze response that aren’t truly harmful this is perhaps one thing like you recognize your husband startling you or public talking or you recognize your buddy’s canine who’s truly candy. so when the reply is not any then if we simply keep it up we do not keep away from we do not escape we breathe we settle down our physique then you might have this pure capacity to return to calm. proper our mind would not have this built-in struggle flight freeze response with out an antidote and that is the parasympathetic nervous system proper so this helps us return to calm and also you know usually this simply naturally occurs we return to calm proper and that is our purpose as a result of once we’re calm we’re capable of make good decisions, we’re capable of reside the life that we wish, to and we do not make silly choices, we do not feel anxious on a regular basis now. nevertheless if we have now one thing that is not truly harmful so going again to my rewiring the anxious mind if we use the instance of a canine proper so your buddy has a canine and it is a good canine however you are petrified of canines it made you are feeling anxious you might have this struggle flight freeze response and also you select as an alternative of sticking with it to keep away from it then your mind does this like whew the rationale I survived is as a result of I escaped and so your brains like I wish to survive once more so I am gonna make my human extra anxious subsequent time and that avoidance goes to set off that short-term aid. which results in extra anxiousness sooner or later and that is what causes this anxiousness cycle to spiral. So avoidance is one thing that makes your anxiousness worse. higher possibility is keep it up, breathe, face it proper and that is gonna show you how to return it to calm. now if we return to this and we ask the query is that this truly harmful? proper go up right here and we are saying the reply. is sure okay that is advantageous it is okay if there’s hazard in our lives as a result of there may be the struggle flight freeze response has us ask a query proper do I take motion? do I struggle it off? do I run away? do I maintain nonetheless and freeze? do I put my head down and attempt to you recognize not make any noise in order that I can survive this? so the one of many choices if that is truly harmful is to do one thing proper so in the event you’ve bought a harmful canine then you may select to keep away from, it or in the event you’ve bought a harmful canine round right here you may select to name it animal management, or in the event you’ve bought a harmful canine round you you may simply freeze, and hopefully you will not set off that canine and the canine will wander off proper. So as soon as we take motion we do one thing then our physique has a option to launch that adrenaline and plenty of instances it is by shaking, or laughing, or you recognize some form of bodily massive motion. So we actually shake it off and once we try this we return it to calm in order that’s a superbly affordable selection of motion now typically there are issues we will not management there’s some some conditions that make us anxious or which might be threatening that we will not do something about. So we get to this truly harmful and there is nothing we are able to do about it. so in that scenario we have now some instruments we are able to use. we are able to select to make use of expertise like willingness and acceptance to assist our physique return to calm and on the very least once we’re utilizing lively acceptance once we’re making the selection to actively settle for that that is harmful however there’s nothing I can do about it on the very least we aren’t escaping and avoiding this and inflicting our anxiousness to spiral so we’re not making ourselves really feel worse. So we have got possibility A which is not any this isn’t harmful then we must always face it and we’re gonna return to calm if we are saying sure it’s truly harmful then we take motion and shake it off and return to calm. The greatest downside that we face when folks do not know why they’re anxious is that this proper right here. I do not know proper so you might have three decisions right here sure, no, and I do not know. So if we energy mind perceives a menace we have this struggle flight freeze response after which we instantly keep away from it or you are simply too busy to work by your feelings or we distract ourselves in order that we really feel it then our mind simply stays caught on this anxiousness response and your brains gonna preserve prompting you time and again once more to ask this query is that this truly harmful and in the event you go to the I do not know place then it is like effectively I suppose I am going to make my human ask that query once more and we’ll convey on that struggle flight freeze response over and over once more as a result of that is simply your mind attempting to get you to reply this query is that this truly harmful? ought to I do one thing about? it ought to I settle for it? or ought to I face it? The extra you distract your self the extra you are feeling anxious however you do not know why and that is one other means we get caught within the anxiousness cycle so when there is a micro menace like a mind sees one thing like site visitors or noise or public talking as a menace it will activate that anxiousness response and if we ignore it suppress it or simply distract ourselves from it then that anxiousness goes to proceed to spiral. But when we face it and we ask this query and we reply it with both sure or no after which we select the fitting motion right here so whether it is harmful we face it we survive after which we return to calm or we select to sit down with it and settle for it and observe our willingness expertise and return to calm. then um you recognize we’re capable of get out of the anxiousness cycle its once we’re caught in distraction and avoidance mode. that that struggle flight freeze response that anxiousness response continues to cycle again and again. nevertheless in the case of anxiousness and these perceived threats and our selection whether or not we run, or we escape, or we sit with it. we truly have room for selection we are able to select actions that lower anxiousness Viktor Frankl stated “between stimulus and response there’s a area and in that area is our energy to decide on our response in our response lies our progress and our freedom” so simply because there are micro threats within the surroundings does not imply that you just’re doomed to expertise anxiousness perpetually or no less than not disordered anxiousness. So there’s one thing we are able to do to make it in order that we are able to course of by and resolve every of these threats return to calm and lower our total normal anxiousness and there is a purpose why lots of people proper now are feeling extra anxiousness than previously and that is purpose quantity two. so that is the second and commonest purpose why folks really feel anxious however they do not know why and it is as a result of they’re habitually avoidant. We’re simply too good at escaping once you really feel anxious and also you instantly attempt to make it go away that is what retains you caught in anxiousness mode. So this appears to be like like attempting to not give it some thought it appears to be like like attempting to really feel glad on a regular basis it appears to be like like holding busy you may watch an excessive amount of TV or spend an excessive amount of time on social media otherwise you may eat one thing to make you are feeling higher. so something that you just do to make that feeling go away or to distract your self from that anxiousness it will preserve you caught in avoidance mode and that is what retains you caught in anxiousness. Carl Jung stated “what we resist persists embrace it and it’ll resolve” so verify your self proper now what are your distraction methods are you watching this video to make your anxiousness go away now I’ll show you how to nevertheless it’s not by avoidance however by studying to face it so distraction is inflicting so many individuals to have anxiousness get trapped of their system as an alternative of distraction hearken to your anxiousness and see what it has to show you take note of your bodily sensations. discover your ideas without having to consider them. Nervousness is only a warning bell it is presupposed to encourage us to motion it is supposed to assist us resolve threats but when we’re chronically, avoidant if we’re over busy, or over numb, or we have now these recurring considering patterns that forestall us from resolving an issue then we’re gonna be unable to course of by that micro menace. and resolve it and return to calm. typically anxiousness is an indication that one thing wants to alter. typically it is a signal that you just simply want to lean into your expertise. once we change from distraction and never realizing to exploring our anxiousness we give ourselves extra energy to unravel our issues and subsequently scale back our anxiousness. so I need everybody to know that your mind and your physique have this pure capacity to heal and we are able to do that by straight going through our issues and we are able to additionally try this by letting our mind convey these issues from the again of our thoughts to the entrance of our thoughts in quiet moments. and our mind is of course gonna work by them, however the rationale lots of people get caught in anxiousness is as a result of they preserve themselves busy on a regular basis and which may preserve you from feeling anxious within the quick time period however in the long term it is gonna make you extra anxious. So many individuals with anxiousness they do not understand that they are doing this however an indication that you just is perhaps doing that is if once you sit down in the event you take 5 minutes and also you do nothing if that makes you are feeling worse so if doing nothing or slowing down makes you are feeling extra anxious then distraction might be one of many contributing components to your anxiousness folks preserve themselves busy they distract themselves however all these urgent worries do not go away they keep there and since anxiousness serves a perform your brains not simply gonna allow you to keep away from it so these worries and people sensations that you have been avoiding that they preserve popping up. in all of the quiet moments particularly in instances like once you’re attempting to go to sleep, or once you’re attempting to chill out. one other scenario which may occur for some folks is that they’re so good at form of suppressing or distracting themselves from these anxiousness messages that your mind has to mainly convey your anxiousness to a shouting stage to get you to pay attention and that is gonna appear to be a panic assault. okay so what is the resolution when distraction is inflicting you to really feel anxious you are not gonna know what’s inflicting it if you wish to resolve your anxiousness as an alternative of dashing up you have to decelerate so Dieter Uchtdorf who was an airline pilot he shares the analogy of an airplane going by turbulence and once you’re going by one thing bumpy or tough or uncomfortable the tendency is to recover from with it as quick as potential to get out of that uncomfortable bouncing and bumping but when the if the airplane pilot hurries up it makes the bouncing and bumping worse and folks truly may get injured on the airplane bouncing round. if as an alternative of dashing up the pilot slows down then they will roll by that storm way more gently and safely and get to their vacation spot in a single piece so I will encourage you to begin a brand new behavior. once you discover your self feeling anxious as an alternative of leaping to senseless distraction, or avoidance, as an alternative of trying to your cellphone, or another machine simply take a minute to write down about it. write about what you feel and what is going on on for you you would write about this in a pocket book you would use your cellphone however be actually cautious as a result of telephones are actually spectacular distractions and no matter you do although the place you select to write down about it you sit along with your emotions and you’re taking the time to course of your ideas so discover a reputation what you are going by after which make clear am I truly at risk? is there some motion to take? or you may ask a query is that this a time to let issues go to just accept? and to observe coping or grounding or leisure methods one other factor you can do to get a bit of bit extra consciousness of the place this anxiousness is coming from is you should utilize an app to trace your temper possibly your anxiousness tends to occur on Sunday nights like proper earlier than an enormous week you begin considering about all the things that is occurring and worrying about you recognize the upcoming duties you might have that week or your anxiousness may come up the week earlier than your interval or it’d come up once you’ve taken on an excessive amount of at work, otherwise you aren’t getting sufficient sleep. So in the event you take the time to write down down what is going on on and monitor it you may begin to discover patterns and discover out what actually is inflicting your anxiousness. So if you do not know why you feel anxious cease attempting to flee as a result of avoidance makes you mind extra anxious. flip off your distractions go for a quiet stroll moderately than watching one other present. for heaven’s sake say on the bathroom with out looking at your cellphone exchange scrolling by your cellphone with deliberately writing about your anxiousness it is gonna really feel extra uncomfortable within the quick run I can virtually assure that, however it is going to truly scale back your anxiousness over time you are gonna get higher at feeling and your anxieties not gonna hassle you a lot. okay so truthfully I believed I might make this into one video nevertheless it’s getting too lengthy so I am gonna go into the subsequent 4 causes of why you is perhaps anxious however you do not know why within the subsequent video it is gonna be known as rewiring the anxious mind half 4 and I am gonna speak about considering patterns that you do not even know that you just’re doing that is perhaps making you anxious and I will speak about one other actually constructive purpose why you is perhaps feeling anxious and you do not know why. however I’ve bought to avoid wasting that for the subsequent video so verify out half 4 the place we’ll speak about normal anxiousness dysfunction. hopefully this video is popping out couple of days so try the hyperlink and thanks for watching and take care.